Comments on: Bollo Campeche (i.e. I may have to stay at home forever)

by: marla

Wed, 16 Apr 2008 01:27:22 +0000

Yeah. Hmmm. Edith did say that routine helped hers so carferberization might be the thing. 10 minutes then 20 over time at the same time everyday. I know you’ll figure out the best way to work it through. Trust your intuition!

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by: Maria

Tue, 15 Apr 2008 04:33:44 +0000

Good point. Our first pediatrician was no help at all, so we switched. I’ll ask our new doctor next time I see him.

Regarding the mirror… I was so ready to buy one, until I found out that it’s considered a safety hazard: In an accident, the mirror becomes a projectile object headed straight to the baby.

I think I’ll just have to car-ferberize Bolliti :)

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by: marla

Tue, 15 Apr 2008 04:21:41 +0000

Can’t offer much, but I see how frustrating it could be. Have you talked to your pediatrician? They get pretty wise about these things and might be able to tell you stuff that worked for other parents.

Maybe it’s just a matter of having you disappear and be just a voice that isn’t coming to soothe him? What if you tried a mirror on the back of the seat that he could look into to see you? And if he didn’t see you, maybe he’d get distracted enough at seeing himself.

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by: Maria

Wed, 12 Mar 2008 06:20:13 +0000

Ahhh… Wise thoughts Mandarine. I completely agree with you: Deep inside I’m hoping that Joaquin will change his mind about car rides with a little more experience. The first few times I strapped him to the swing he turned into a tiny red ball of fire. Now he loves it and takes long naps in there. Can’t imagine my life without that little break.

The last time we went out with Joaquin he cried hard, but mom (riding on the back of the car with him) says that she saw him starting to look outside, and when he did, he tried to calm himself down. That gives me hope… Yet, I know that I’ll wish the bollo had stayed the way he was when he starts insisting on riding motorcycles and taking on extreme sports like mountain biking : )

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by: mandarine

Tue, 11 Mar 2008 20:18:29 +0000

Our son hated a car ride all right (until he was allowed to sit upright and watch outside), but he was the exact opposite of your bollito regarding home: he was never as happy as when he could go outside. Apart from sleeping and feeding, inside was apparently not the place he wanted to be.

But it changed. One thing I’ll keep in mind for next time, is that babies change faster than one can say Jack Robinson. After all, a six-month-old toddler doubles his age in six months. It will take 33 years for me to change that much.

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by: Maria

Tue, 11 Mar 2008 00:03:24 +0000

To Kim:
I know!… Every single article or book I read mentions the car as a sleep aid, not as a tear–jerker… I’m jealous of everyone I see out with babies carried in infant car seats and strollers. For instance, the idea to take the bollo to Ikea came mostly after having seen three babies strolling in perfect peace around the store one Sunday Joey and I went there sans–baby.

To Pete:
I read about your beautiful grass ruined by those hogs. Ask Joaquin in a few years… I’m sure he’ll jump at the opportunity of helping Poppy and getting some fun, if not hunting, at least chasing those bad boys.

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by: Us

Mon, 10 Mar 2008 22:32:12 +0000

maybe he would enjoy hunting hogs…..I have a few I wish he would pop.

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by: KSR

Mon, 10 Mar 2008 20:08:34 +0000

fortunately for us, our kids mostly loved riding in the car…as long as it was moving..(that was often a way to get them calmed down at night)..for the stroller, does it have a position that lets bollito face you? With our kids, that helped when they were teensie because they could still see you and didn’t think they were being thrown into the world all alone…..w/o being able to see a known face…..biggest key …and maybe impossible is for mom/dad/whoever to stay calm and not get upset…..they can sense it….so you gotta stay cool as a cucumber…(fall apart later out of sight)…a big demand when one is running on empty in terms of sleep and unhappy babies break a heart…The good news is that I don’t believe they truly remember the trauma at that early age…..

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by: Maria

Mon, 10 Mar 2008 06:37:03 +0000

To Petie:
That’s the problem with Joac having been born in the winter… I would’ve loved to take strolls with him when he was little, and I think it probably would’ve made a difference now: He’d be used to that at least…

We’ve tried walks a few times, but Joaquin HATES the cold breeze hitting his face. Although he tolerated it when being pushed from B&N to Target, he would not take it next day around the neighborhood, and it was a sunny day. I’m really hoping that things will get better in the spring.

LUCKY YOU with those little social butterflies!!!

To Chris:
Yeah. I’ve thought about that (specially with the Maggie Moo’s incident). At the same time though, I’m not sure that he’s old enough to get the difference between a trip for him, and one for me. Being so little, he still can’t sit or play… So visual stimuli is all I try to give him, and I’d think he can get that anywhere bright and busy.

Having said that, though… It’s so cute to see how excited he gets when watching the ocean animals on that DVD mom got for him. That’s why we thought he might enjoy the aquarium. I’ll report back on how that goes… Hopefully he’ll be happier staying, though I’m pretty sure he’ll demand teta as soon as he gets there in compensation for his abundant tears inside the car.

To Edith:
Welcome!… and more importantly: Thank you for telling me about your son. It’s a great relief to know that I’m not alone with this issue, and knowing that Diego hated it as much as Joaquin does — yet eventually he turned around — gives me hope. I don’t look forward to another torturing episode of car crying, but if there’s a happy ending I gotta keep trying.

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by: Edith

Mon, 10 Mar 2008 05:04:36 +0000

Hello, Maria…I saw your site on OhDeeDoh and I really like it…my son (Diego) is now 2 and he still hates almost every single car seat ride. He was the same way Joaquin was…every car ride was a heart break..but you can’t condemn yourself to stay inside the house..I still worked back then and I had to take him to daycare at 6 weeks..it was really the routine that eventually got him used to it. It took a long time though..and once he was old enough to face forward it got better ..but he also got strong enough to start to fight me..and to this day..he becomes stiff as board when he doesn’t want to get in. Sometimes I start to sing his favorite song I made up for him..and it works…sometimes…he just wants a toy/something to hold…don’t give up yet…I hope you have a repeat Ikea trip at another location of your choosing..but then again..i love ikea..so I understand why he would be happier there :)Buenas Noches

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