Comments on: A Parenting Meme http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/ A Creative Playground by Maria Q. Stultz Thu, 20 Nov 2008 09:54:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: Petie http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21520 Tue, 20 May 2008 01:43:21 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21520 What do I do? Copy the questions and answer them in our blog? I'm not familiar on meme etiquette. :) OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] What do I do? Copy the questions and answer them in our blog? I’m not familiar on meme etiquette. :)

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Petie http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21519 Tue, 20 May 2008 01:42:35 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21519 No! Not that kind of worried! Goodness, no. I just thought you were super busy without Joey help. I know it took an adjustment, but Joey said Joaquin played the part and behaved for you. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] No! Not that kind of worried! Goodness, no. I just thought you were super busy without Joey help. I know it took an adjustment, but Joey said Joaquin played the part and behaved for you.

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Maria http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21241 Fri, 16 May 2008 18:14:39 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21241 Worried?... Like <cite>she may have cut her veins</cite> worried? I didn't tag you on this, but it would be cool to see your answers to this meme... OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] Worried?… Like she may have cut her veins worried?

I didn’t tag you on this, but it would be cool to see your answers to this meme…

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Petie http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21236 Fri, 16 May 2008 17:12:39 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21236 Thanks for sharing - I'd missed your blog and was worried about you. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] Thanks for sharing - I’d missed your blog and was worried about you.

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Maria http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21232 Fri, 16 May 2008 16:02:36 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21232 Ah, you know... Easier said than done... I want to read this again in a few years and see if I'm really acting according to all my words. Thank you for the meme. It was very interesting to think about all this. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] Ah, you know… Easier said than done… I want to read this again in a few years and see if I’m really acting according to all my words. Thank you for the meme. It was very interesting to think about all this.

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Litlove http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21231 Fri, 16 May 2008 10:33:38 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21231 I loved your answers and second Mandarine - I also think that children are not ours in that sense, and I would agree wholeheartedly that we provide the environment that (hopefully) offers them what they need to gain independence and confidence. I think you sound like you're doing a wonderful job of the hardest possible job in the world. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] I loved your answers and second Mandarine - I also think that children are not ours in that sense, and I would agree wholeheartedly that we provide the environment that (hopefully) offers them what they need to gain independence and confidence. I think you sound like you’re doing a wonderful job of the hardest possible job in the world.

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: Maria http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21227 Fri, 16 May 2008 05:14:33 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21227 So true. And it reminds me of a childhood story I often laugh about... One time, when I was maybe 12 and my sister 9, my mom stopped on her way back from our school at the house of an acquaintance who was a fashion designer. Mom told us she was just going to try on a couple of outfits and she'd be back in a little while. But it was not a little while. I can't remember how long she stayed in there while Ana and I were stuck waiting for her outside in the car. It was a looooong time by children standards, and on top of my aggravation, I also had to endure an extra level of annoyance: My sister, a fiery Sagittarius was NOT a patient little girl. First she started whining. Then she went to crying. Pretty soon she reached the anger stage... FOAM came out of her mouth as she angrily shook the front passenger's seat (where I was seated) in sheer desperation of the confinement. To me, the story is a funny memory that illustrates how different my sister and I used to be. The fact that my mom left us waiting in the car has never been an issue. That's how things used to be 20something years ago, when I was a child. But when I told the story to Joey, he was all Whaa??? Your mom left you alone in the car all that time?... By today's standards (and maybe American standards), what my mom did that time (and many others with a much shorter wait) would be considered serious business, and she could probably even risk custody if the scene had happened today. Yeah. Today's society is way overprotective of children. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] So true. And it reminds me of a childhood story I often laugh about…

One time, when I was maybe 12 and my sister 9, my mom stopped on her way back from our school at the house of an acquaintance who was a fashion designer. Mom told us she was just going to try on a couple of outfits and she’d be back in a little while. But it was not a little while. I can’t remember how long she stayed in there while Ana and I were stuck waiting for her outside in the car.

It was a looooong time by children standards, and on top of my aggravation, I also had to endure an extra level of annoyance: My sister, a fiery Sagittarius was NOT a patient little girl. First she started whining. Then she went to crying. Pretty soon she reached the anger stage… FOAM came out of her mouth as she angrily shook the front passenger’s seat (where I was seated) in sheer desperation of the confinement.

To me, the story is a funny memory that illustrates how different my sister and I used to be. The fact that my mom left us waiting in the car has never been an issue. That’s how things used to be 20something years ago, when I was a child. But when I told the story to Joey, he was all Whaa??? Your mom left you alone in the car all that time?… By today’s standards (and maybe American standards), what my mom did that time (and many others with a much shorter wait) would be considered serious business, and she could probably even risk custody if the scene had happened today.

Yeah. Today’s society is way overprotective of children.

]]> OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] by: mandarine http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21224 Fri, 16 May 2008 03:38:12 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2008/05/a-parenting-meme/#comment-21224 These are great answers. I love the notion that our children are not <em>ours</em>. What you say about fear of danger is something I am struggling a lot with. I think today's parents are way overprotective, but the look and judgement of society is completely different than before. A century ago, if I had regularly left my son play unwatched with a whole bunch of kids on the banks of the river and he had fallen and drowned, I would have considered it hard luck, and so would my neighbours. If the same happened today, I am not sure I could escape public prosecution for negligence, and I would live to regret my carelessness anyway. Ambiant guilt instilled in parents has drastically changed the way kids are raised, and I am not sure it's for the best. OjO : [Content from mafemaria.com] These are great answers. I love the notion that our children are not ours.

What you say about fear of danger is something I am struggling a lot with. I think today’s parents are way overprotective, but the look and judgement of society is completely different than before. A century ago, if I had regularly left my son play unwatched with a whole bunch of kids on the banks of the river and he had fallen and drowned, I would have considered it hard luck, and so would my neighbours. If the same happened today, I am not sure I could escape public prosecution for negligence, and I would live to regret my carelessness anyway. Ambiant guilt instilled in parents has drastically changed the way kids are raised, and I am not sure it’s for the best.

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