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Life • February 9th, 2009

Recently we changed our house locks, and although something told me we might run into trouble at some point, today I could fully confirm it by accidentally locking myself out of the house — thankfully, with Joaquin by my side. I had just strapped him to the car seat, and had my car keys with me, but my bag and wallet, and coat and everything else I was planning to take with us, stayed in the house. So with a screaming baby, I went to my next door neighbors’ home to call Joey at work. They were not dressed and warned me that they had been sick, so staying there while Joey could get here to rescue us, was not an option. It was windy and raining (really snowing, though the temperature wasn’t cold enough for the flakes to stick), so the only thing I could do was to get on the car and drive Joaquin around the neighborhood during our 30–minute wait.

It was quiet, so I turned the radio on. The classic station I usually listen to was running an interview. Instead of switching for music, I started listening… By the time Joey got home I was completely depressed and full of an irrational urge to go out there and make money.

The story I listened to for 30 minutes, was that of a 58–year–old woman who lost her job 16 months ago. She’s spent all of her severance package, recently ran out of her unemployment benefits, and is now using her pension fund to pay her home mortgage. She has no money at all and can’t find a job in this depressed economy. She talked about how every time she goes to the grocery store, she must decide between buying toothpaste and toilet paper, or bread and milk. She’s done everything she can think of to get a job, but keeps failing because there’s such competition out there, and she believes employers discriminate based on her age. I was impressed by her calm tone of voice explaining her situation. I probably would’ve cut my veins a long time ago if I was on her shoes and childless…

As I listened to her story, particularly the piece about not being able to find a job because of her age, I wished I had a business so I could employ her or somebody like her. I told Joey the story and he made me even sadder when he commented “I’m getting old too”. It’s really a terrible thing to think that at some point, people won’t want to give us a job because we’re “old”. All this gave me a feeling of urgency to get a job, in case Joey loses his… But, back in reality, we’re fine for now, and we prefer Joaquin on my care. All that happened is, I was touched for a second by a dose of the ugly reality happening outside of my pretty home, and by tomorrow I will have forgotten and will go back to my usual self–protective ignorance. How sad is that?

5 comments:

  1. On February 11th, 2009 at 7:34 am, Petie wrote:

    yes, these stories make me very sad and nervous. I hope the economy rebounds sooner then later. We are very lucky – and I also hope it stays that way, too.

    On a brighter note, we’re going to Wimberley this weekend to check out the new house!

  2. On February 11th, 2009 at 9:27 am, Maria wrote:

    Cool!… I want to hear all about it when you get back!

  3. On February 11th, 2009 at 11:42 am, Jennifer wrote:

    First, why are your house keys not with your car keys? :) And, I take it you don’t have access through the garage that was unlocked. Pardon me asking the obvious ;)

    On the other note… I heard a story yesterday on NPR about a 40 year old family business that is going out of business due to the economy, and, oh yeah, his greedy landlord and the landlord’s lawyer. Just as depressing, though for a different reason. The Story: the biz owner owes back rent due to the landlord upping the rent; the biz owner asked politely to pay the back rent if the landlord would let him out of the rest of the lease; the landlord’s lawyer told landlord to deny the biz owner that option because, should the biz owner file bankruptcy, the landlord could probably make a TON more money off the guy.

    I mean, what the hell has the world come to? Especially in this economy, for the landlord to be so greedy. I’m not saying that the biz owner didn’t owe money, but I think there’s a limit that needs to be set, at least in human compassion! Made me so mad.

    HOWEVER, as for getting “old”. I think it just all depends on how you position yourself. A lot of “older” people tend to not want to change or do things in a new way and so the stereotype is maintained. But, people like my dad – who is 68 this year – who strive to learn what’s new and keep up with technology, can stay employed. I’m not saying it’s easy – I’m sure it’s harder in most respects. But, I think because we live longer these days that it is up to us to make ourselves as marketable as possible… anyway… :)

  4. On February 11th, 2009 at 11:35 pm, Maria wrote:

    The garage door was locked. That’s how I got ourselves locked out: I went out to the garage, strapped the bollo to the car seat, and then, when I was going to go back in for my bag, through the garage door, I realized that I had closed the door and it had one of the locks on. See, it’s very poor design because it lets you open the door from inside without giving you any clue that the lock is on. SUCKED!

    I agree with you in that we can’t just stay stagnant and expect the world to still love us. However, I think that no matter what you do, when you get old, you get old, and you will inevitable lose opportunities to younger folks based solely on age; not skills. It happened to my dad, one of the most knowledgeable and respected figures of the automotive industry in Colombia. He still gets jobs and people love him, but he did lose a job he deserved because back in Japan they wanted somebody younger. Can you believe it? JAPANESE execs choosing youth over seniority. I was floored by how much that culture has changed!

  5. On February 18th, 2009 at 11:13 am, Marla Scott wrote:

    At least you were dressed! When we first moved into our new home, I locked Olivia and I out in the backyard with no phone and no keys. I was wearing the equivalent of a house dress that I would not wear in public. Fortunately, they were still building in our neighborhood and still had a copy of our house key at the building office (I can’t imagine why now), but it was within walking distance at least. I just had to walk the neighborhood barefoot and in my housedress. I was so embarassed!

    As for the economy, it’s hard to hear about any of it. Yes, we are getting older and there will be discrimination. It’s touched my mother and she’s only 56. My step father too. He couldn’t get hired for a while as a basic worker because he had too much management experience and managers felt he’d be after their jobs too soon after he was hired. He couldn’t convince people that all he wanted was to be a 9-5er without a team to manage. He did eventually convince a city government to hire him based on his contacts and resourcefulness from being in government construction for over 20 years.

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