Comments on: These days, Joaquin… http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/ A Creative Playground by Maria Q. Stultz Sun, 25 Mar 2012 01:48:16 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Maria http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-77971 Maria Fri, 04 Sep 2009 19:12:02 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-77971 Thank you for your comment and your very helpful tip, Silvian. I think you're completely right about "choices"... Not only the ones I give him, but also the ones I make for myself. Just yesterday I was getting caught up on the hell that meal time can be some times. He's stopped throwing his food but now just opens his mouth and spits out a half-chewed bite for no reason at all, and that was upsetting me, and also I was trying to control what he was eating (I wanted him to have some chicken, not just peas), and I was trying to help him with the spoon, and the whole thing was making me so upset... I could feel it... So instead of letting the ulcer build up in my stomach I made a conscious decision to step away from it... I prepared a wholesome meal for him; let him choose what he wants to eat — I can't make him eat something he doesn't want anyway; he'll spit it out. So he's making a mess with his uncoordinated use of the spoon... He's shown he's smart enough to learn things by himself, and he doesn't want to be taught anyway. Just go do the dishes and smile at him, and meal time will go faster, and I'll just clean the final mess in the end. Ahhhhh!!!! I so loved having made that choice that minute. I should know better. I'm old! So your little one is 15 years old now. How cool!... I have found that no time with mine is better than the present. I don't long for the newborn days, or the baby days... His present is always so much more interesting than his past. I'm sure you feel the same way with your joy to behold. Thank you again for visiting and commenting :) Thank you for your comment and your very helpful tip, Silvian.

I think you’re completely right about “choices”… Not only the ones I give him, but also the ones I make for myself.

Just yesterday I was getting caught up on the hell that meal time can be some times. He’s stopped throwing his food but now just opens his mouth and spits out a half-chewed bite for no reason at all, and that was upsetting me, and also I was trying to control what he was eating (I wanted him to have some chicken, not just peas), and I was trying to help him with the spoon, and the whole thing was making me so upset… I could feel it…

So instead of letting the ulcer build up in my stomach I made a conscious decision to step away from it…

I prepared a wholesome meal for him; let him choose what he wants to eat — I can’t make him eat something he doesn’t want anyway; he’ll spit it out.

So he’s making a mess with his uncoordinated use of the spoon… He’s shown he’s smart enough to learn things by himself, and he doesn’t want to be taught anyway.

Just go do the dishes and smile at him, and meal time will go faster, and I’ll just clean the final mess in the end. Ahhhhh!!!! I so loved having made that choice that minute. I should know better. I’m old!

So your little one is 15 years old now. How cool!… I have found that no time with mine is better than the present. I don’t long for the newborn days, or the baby days… His present is always so much more interesting than his past. I’m sure you feel the same way with your joy to behold.

Thank you again for visiting and commenting :)

]]> By: Mother Nature http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-77970 Mother Nature Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:27:16 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-77970 Dear Maria, I'm glad to see that 18 months later you are totally enjoying your little bundle of joy. I was going to respond to your post about the horribleness of pregnancy and thought I would find one more recent instead. I also had a horrible pregnancy and commiserate with you completely. Now my little one is 15 and is a joy to behold. No horrible teenager in my house! LOL I commend your parenting style. Choices are the name of the game. Here is a tidbit for you: stop saying just a minute to him, simply distract him with something he can count, like keys, or a keychain with safe bobbles on it that catch his interest. Problem solved. Distraction and choices are THE keys to success with kids! When you get to Heaven come visit me in the big Garden in the middle. Sincerely Mother Nature Silvian Noels Dear Maria,

I’m glad to see that 18 months later you are totally enjoying your little bundle of joy. I was going to respond to your post about the horribleness of pregnancy and thought I would find one more recent instead.

I also had a horrible pregnancy and commiserate with you completely. Now my little one is 15 and is a joy to behold. No horrible teenager in my house! LOL

I commend your parenting style. Choices are the name of the game. Here is a tidbit for you: stop saying just a minute to him, simply distract him with something he can count, like keys, or a keychain with safe bobbles on it that catch his interest. Problem solved. Distraction and choices are THE keys to success with kids!

When you get to Heaven come visit me in the big Garden in the middle.

Sincerely
Mother Nature
Silvian Noels

]]> By: Pete Stultz http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76230 Pete Stultz Fri, 21 Aug 2009 05:21:41 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76230 more words. Yes he can get bigger and will certainly do so before I see him again. more words. Yes he can get bigger and will certainly do so before I see him again.

]]> By: Maria http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76090 Maria Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:58:51 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76090 I knew I was forgetting something!... Oh well, I updated the words above to include "bye". Unfortunately "ba-bah-byeeeyah" is not a real word. I knew I was forgetting something!… Oh well, I updated the words above to include “bye”. Unfortunately “ba-bah-byeeeyah” is not a real word.

]]> By: Joe http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76087 Joe Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:50:44 +0000 http://www.mafemaria.com/2009/08/these-days-joaquin/#comment-76087 The one notable addition is how he says "bye-bye" now. It is especially funny when he wants to let you know that he is ready to leave or ready for someone else to leave. The one notable addition is how he says “bye-bye” now. It is especially funny when he wants to let you know that he is ready to leave or ready for someone else to leave.

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